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SPIRITUAL CONSEQUENCES OF SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE
All sexual relationships outside of marriage establish blood covenants with spirits of immorality. The people involved in such relationships become spiritually bound to each other through demonic bonds.
Many women who were sexually active before marriage even though they have since married and have children, confess that they still feel a strong emotional dependence to their former “boyfriend” to whom they lost their virginity long before. Some even confess that they have had affairs with their “old flame” or “first love”. This demonstrates the power of sinful bonds between souls through sex. Sex spiritually establishes spiritual and emotional wounds and “demonic bridges” that the enemy uses to torment his victims.
Through adultery, demonic entities that block the matrimonial relationship invade the marriage bed thus bringing satanic oppression into the family. The children become morally unprotected and susceptible to sexually abusive relationships. The worst consequence of illicit sex however occurs when a child is conceived through the act.
The spiritual consequences of conceiving an illegitimate child
One of illegitimate birth shall not enter the assembly of the Lord; even to the tenth generation none of his descendants shall enter the assembly of the Lord (Deuteronomy 23:2)
I believe that this text describes one of the greatest wounds of society. We can see the dramatic spiritual consequences of children conceived outside of the marriage covenant, through fornication, adultery, incest, prostitution and rape.
What does this verse really mean by “shall not enter the assembly of the Lord“? First, it is important to state that this verse doesn’t mean that God rejects people who are imprisoned in sins of sexual immorality. God is a father to the orphans. This passage simply reveals that because of extra-marital sex of any type, malignant, spiritual resistance will block and even impede those who practice it from enjoying success in the ministerial and conjugal realm. Families and churches have a strong tendency to marginalize illegitimate children.
And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons: “My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the Lord loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.” If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. (Hebrews 12:5-8)
This passage also reinforces the fundamental characteristic of illegitimate children who often express their frustration with respect to their questionable origins through an aversion to parental and even divine correction and discipline.
Emotional, sexual and homosexual affliction
Every conception of a child involves a sexual relationship, and every sexual relationship involves a blood covenant. A spiritually illegal sexual relationship always implies that the participants place the blood of this covenant on the altar of spirits of immorality. The child conceived in this manner becomes the fruit of a blood covenant established with these entities through their immoral acts. In this way, the child becomes the victim of demonic “persecution” at conception, literally an “intrauterine demonic possession”. This may seem harsh and even strange but the resulting symptoms affirm its truth.
This spiritual persecution has three basic aspects: emotional, sexual and often homosexual. Almost all children born outside of a marriage covenant suffer some type of sexual or homosexual abuse or molestation during their infancy.
Many women experience serious problems in menstruation and childbirth. Another symptom of the curse of an illegitimate child is that early on, these children demonstrate advanced and perverted sexual appetites.
When parents begin to understand what happens to their children born out-of-wedlock they learn to make sense out of their children’s strange and deviant behavior. I have heard of a mother who shared that her three years old child frequently masturbated to the point of becoming totally drenched in sweat. She frequently tried to correct her child, but never saw any results. Obviously, this type of behavior is very abnormal for a child of that age. Such behavior confirms extreme demonic oppression in the child’s life. Many other cases of children practicing lesbianism and manifesting homosexual traits confirm the same scheme of demonic persecution.
Many homosexuals ignoring the history of their conception and other aspects of spiritual heritage believe that they were born gay and that their condition is just something that happens to certain people thus their family, church and society as a whole should be more understanding and accept their condition as a normal yet not very common part of life. The truth is that they can bear a demonic homosexual persecution, which fortunately can be broken by the liberating power of the cross of Christ.
By ignoring the spiritual character of their situation these victims of the enemy end up conforming to the perverted nature of these entities accustoming themselves to live in moral passivity, low self-esteem, inferiority, insecurity, self-hatred, rejection and segregation.
Rejection and isolation
The curse of the illegitimate child can also be expressed as a syndrome of rejection and isolation. The illegitimate child feels alone in the midst of a multitude, regardless of the environment.
Let’s examine the situation from another point of view. When an “unmarried” woman discovers that she is pregnant, is this good or bad news? With few exceptions, we know that this news is tragic and distressful.
Children born outside of the marriage covenant are rarely planned, and for this reason, they end up being strongly rejected in various ways by various people. Their parents conceive them in lust rather than in love. In truth, these innocent children become bad news, the worst problem in their parent’s lives. Instead of treating them as blessings from God, many parents see their illegitimate children as problems, little people who came to bring difficulty and inconvenience into their lives. Many see such children as punishment from God and a shame to the family.
Attempts to hide a pregnancy, thoughts and attempts of abortion, misunderstanding between couples who conceive children outside of marriage, paternal abandonment, rejection by the grandparents, curses spoken over the situation and undesired children – all such traumatic situations invoke a “spirit” of self-rejection and segregation that haunts these people all through their lives, acting like a parasite that sucks the life out of their self-esteem.
Such children grow up with a profound sense of inadequacy. Persecuted by these evil spirits, these children become irritated and rebellious, no longer feeling part of the family. They experience tremendous difficulty in fitting in at the local church and frequently become outsiders at their school. Such children see themselves as inferior and rejected. Insecurity and lack of affection become the center of their emotional life. They feel constant difficulty in adjusting to any environment.
This is where we come to understand the complicated syndrome of street kids and the problems that many parents of adopted children experience. In spite of the fact that many adoptive parents raise their children with love and discipline, many unexplainably present an attitude of rebellion and isolation. They remain under the legacy of their biological parents who, many times, were involved in prostitution, abandonment, abortion attempts, poverty, illegitimate children, rape, etc. Ignoring these hereditary components leads many adoptive parents to a dead-end.
The Bible also mentions the consequences of the hereditary nature of illegitimate children. Therefore people who have children outside of the marriage covenant are often themselves, children of single mothers and simply reproduce their own condition.
Biblically, the legacy of the illegitimate child is capable of extending up to 10 generations (Deuteronomy 23:2) which is the number of generations that this iniquity must be confessed with respect to our lineage. Generational reconciliation between fathers and children either personally or intercessory is the master-key to break this curse.
Chronic difficulty in developing relationships, faithfulness in church attendance and fruitfulness in the church are directly consequences of the curse of the illegitimate child. Certainly, this is the main thing that keeps people from baptism into the body of Christ and the paternal heart of God.
Usually people who demonstrate difficulty with faithful church attendance have a history of someone in the bloodline born out-of-wedlock. When such curses are completely broken through profound reconciliation within the family, the person begins to recover the ability to fit in and begins to feel like a part of the church family.
And they said, “Come, let us build ourselves a city, and a tower whose top is in the heavens; let us make a name for ourselves, lest we be scattered abroad over the face of the whole earth.” (Genesis 11:4)
This passage establishes the motivational platform of the citizens of Babel. Wrong motives can suddenly fragment the process of growth. This verse shows us four transgressions which make up the motives of those people and caused their unity to result in a doomed process of confusion and dispersion.
Let us build for ourselves – self-centeredness and possessiveness
In developing the work of God, a self-seeking attitude of building it for ourselves is very dangerous. The hidden motive of building it for ourselves expresses open rebellion against the Lordship of Christ. It is not the style of leadership but the spirit of leadership that can be a problem in this respect: whether we consider ourselves owners or stewards, masters or servants, pastors or rulers. To lead is to guide, to serve and to care for. What is the true motive behind our ministry? Are we serving the church or using the people?
In the letter to the Ephesians, Paul states that God gave pastors, teachers, evangelists, etc. to the church. He didn’t say that God gave the church to pastors, teachers, evangelists, etc. Leaders belong to the body of Christ but the body of Christ does not belong to leaders.
When leaders feel that they are the owners of the ministry, they begin to manipulate people. Leaders begin to see their own objectives as primary and people as secondary. Their prayer life of is substituted for excessive demands on people and their dependence on God is replaced by the manipulation of their staff. They make their own decisions independently of God’s authorization, and thus rebel against God’s will. All of this happens very subtly and under the cloak of spirituality.
This was one of the most serious sins of the religious class of Jesus’s time. This is why he confronted them with various parables one of which is the rented vineyard (Matthew 21:33-34), the evil steward (Matthew 24:48-51) and others. These are the people who coerce others to do the work of God. These people stop being servants and became masters. Jesus leaves us with the key question:
“When therefore the owner of the vineyard comes, what will he do to those tenants?” (Matthew 21:40)
When we lose the recognition that we are mere stewards, the enemy begins to inject various strategies of control which begin to wear us down and destroy our relationships. Manipulation, domination, greed, disguised extortion, and various other attitudes motivated by insecurity and fear of losing control and reputation will implode our relationship with God and place us in a spiritual situation in which even though we feel confident, in reality we are on the verge of collapse.
A tower whose top will reach into heaven – megalomania
God is great and certainly has great things for each one of us. However, he never starts with something big and ready to go. The motivation based on megalomania usually is host to pride and arrogance. This motivation can cause us to stumble over a whole series of divine principles such as humility, faithfulness in the little, unity, etc.
All of us are impressed with big and majestic things. Maybe the greatest danger of this type of motivation is that it leads us into forgetting about God. This type of moral amnesia has brought many empires to total destruction. This was the divine verdict over the people of Edom, who arrogantly went too far in their judgment against Israel:
The pride of your heart has deceived you, You who dwell in the clefts of the rock, Whose habitation is high; You who say in your heart, ‘Who will bring me down to the ground?’ Though you ascend as high as the eagle, And though you set your nest among the stars, From there I will bring you down,” says the Lord. (Obadiah 1:3-4)
Re: the great Temple of Jerusalem, Jesus said that there would not be one stone left upon another that would not be knocked down, because they had forgotten God and rejected the prophetic word. They got so stubborn after the success that they had achieved that they were unable to discern the divine visitation. Under the pretext of protecting their religious structure, they assassinated the Messiah – God’s revival in person. They locked themselves into so many rules and regulations that they lost the essence of relationship with God.
They became insensitive to the presence of God to such a point that they not only “did the work of God without God” but also “did the work of God against God”.
The danger of large religious structures is that they makes us feel untouchable, so secure that we no longer need God, thus the Holy Spirit retreats together with his blessing. When this happens we feel that we are above divine correction, and we ourselves define the height of our fall.
Jesus took us out of an empire, the “power of darkness”, and transferred us into his “kingdom of love” (Colossians 1:13). The words “power” and “kingdom” are motivationally antagonistic just as “controlling” and “serving”. When a church stops being part of the kingdom it becomes an empire, megalomania, self-sufficient motivation is placed in check.
Let us make a name for ourselves – idolizing a reputation
Self-affirmation and the love for fame are dangerous tendencies that also reveal a personality imbalanced by insecurity.
Are we building a tower or an altar? A tower is a memorial and a monument to itself. An altar is a place of total surrender to God. This is the basis of true worship. What are we building for God? The Bible says that Saul built a monument on Mount caramel in his own honor. His motivation in making his kingdom into a tower brought his kingdom to decadence and chaos. He was sternly rebuked by God.
David also went through a similar situation being tempted by Satan in the same way. He sinned against God by counting his people, trusting in the growth and potential of his army. He sinned against God ignoring that: “the horse is prepared for the day of battle, but the victory belongs to the Lord.” (Proverbs 21:31).
In the end though, David repented and submitted himself to divine correction. To demonstrate his attitude of humility he built an altar to God on the threshing floor of Araunah, where Solomon later built a temple. In this way he had the promise of his reign sealed by an eternal covenant which fulfilled itself in Christ.
We must not build our identity solely on what we do. Intimacy with God is the greatest key deployed in the formation of our identity. We must not simply seek out the ministry. This can be a way of further feeding our insecurity and running from God’s dealings with us. We must first seek the Lord, and he will establish us in his ministry.
We must not seek out a position because of the advantages we can get from it. Instead, we must serve the body of Christ through our gifts. By exercising them, in due course we will be placed where we belong. We shouldn’t seek the affirmation of men; rather, we must focus on God’s approval so that he will show us approved before men.
The lust for fame is a temptation that has overcome many. Fame in this case is a “reward” that the devil gives so that people do not become that which God planned them to be. Every time we become intoxicated by vainglory, self-worship or fame we move further away from our identity in God.
The way for us to become what God wants us to be is worship. Worship releases the revelation of our identity. But self-affirmation shuts us up even more in structures of insecurity.
Lest we be scattered abroad over the face of the whole earth – (“stay” instead of “go”) – possessiveness and apathy.
This defensive attitude reveals the heart of those men. They were being strongly motivated by fear and insecurity. A motive based on self-promotion does not lead us in the great commission, but rather the “great omission.”
God’s original plan for the earth is revealed in the first chapter of the Bible:
“And God bless them, and God said to them, “be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it.” (Genesis 1:28)
Once again the original plan of God, which is spelled out later in the New Testament through the great commission of Jesus, is confirmed to Noah, the new beginning of the human race: and God blessed Noah and his sons, and said to them, “be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth” (Genesis 9:11)
The intention of God was to fill the earth. When we lose the goal of filling the earth with the knowledge of the glory of God, then confusion, division and the lack of understanding enters in. When we sin against the responsibility to disciple nations, we are compromising the quality of the growth.
The most efficient strategy of sanctification is evangelism. Evangelism makes the difference between those who whose feet are sunk into worldliness and those whose feet are shod with the preaching of the gospel of peace and clothed with the armor of God.
We lose the blessing when we stop being a blessing. When the church loses the view of the lost world and becomes a “tiny empire”, it is a sign that is being controlled by insecure people and no longer guided by the Holy Spirit. This explains why there are so many people who still haven’t heard the gospel. This seeming unity based on fear and insecurity buries the authority of the church and endangers the quality of the growth.
The antidote to this toxin that sickened the motives of humankind in Babel only came at Pentecost through the ministry of the Holy Spirit. The first thing the Holy Spirit did was to break the religious sophistry that fed the bias and apathy of the church in relation to the Gentiles.
The first message of Pentecost was a view of different people of various languages. This apostolic missionary vision reached its peak with Paul, the greatest apostle to the Gentiles. The primitive church maintained the quality of growth because it had a distinguishing characteristic: the boldness to witness. They brought the gospel to the hands of the known world. Biblically they were more than a witness, they were martyrs. The Greek word used for witness in the New Testament is “martyrs”. They paid the price of obedience and evangelized the world and their generation.
Unfortunately there is a generalized evil in the church: many want to find a way to serve God without the direct involvement in the great commission of making disciples of the nations. More than ever the church needs a “touch of eternity”.
The obedience to Jesus’s command to “go” is the key to unity, understanding and ministry complimentary of the body of Christ. This was the last commandment Jesus left us. When we don’t do what God has commanded us to do we begin to do what he has commanded us not to do and this is where curses, confusion and divisions begin. The church which becomes an end in itself is condemned to the same destiny as the Tower of Babel.
If in any way we are not directly involved in the great commission, we can be certain that there is something very wrong with “our gospel” and with our lives.
What does the last commandment of Jesus mean to us; a “great opinion” in which only some must be involved? A “great omission” because we feel that it is not for us and therefore must only apply to others? Or “the great commission”, the commandment for everyone in which we have a commitment to fulfill our part completely?
One simplified version of Babel was exemplified by Jesus himself in the New Testament. He speaks of a man who prospered so much that he tore down his barns and built even larger ones. The motive of this man was founded in personal interests and in seeking out security in this world. This is when the church becomes a barn and a platform to guarantee success and human comfort. But suddenly a verdict is heard:
But God said to him, ‘Fool! This night your soul will be required of you; then whose will those things be which you have provided?’ “So is he who lays up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God.” (Luke 12:20-21)
Has your church become a “missionary barn”?