SPIRITUAL CONSEQUENCES OF SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE
All sexual relationships outside of marriage establish blood covenants with spirits of immorality. The people involved in such relationships become spiritually bound to each other through demonic bonds.
Many women who were sexually active before marriage even though they have since married and have children, confess that they still feel a strong emotional dependence to their former “boyfriend” to whom they lost their virginity long before. Some even confess that they have had affairs with their “old flame” or “first love”. This demonstrates the power of sinful bonds between souls through sex. Sex spiritually establishes spiritual and emotional wounds and “demonic bridges” that the enemy uses to torment his victims.
Through adultery, demonic entities that block the matrimonial relationship invade the marriage bed thus bringing satanic oppression into the family. The children become morally unprotected and susceptible to sexually abusive relationships. The worst consequence of illicit sex however occurs when a child is conceived through the act.
The spiritual consequences of conceiving an illegitimate child
One of illegitimate birth shall not enter the assembly of the Lord; even to the tenth generation none of his descendants shall enter the assembly of the Lord (Deuteronomy 23:2)
I believe that this text describes one of the greatest wounds of society. We can see the dramatic spiritual consequences of children conceived outside of the marriage covenant, through fornication, adultery, incest, prostitution and rape.
What does this verse really mean by “shall not enter the assembly of the Lord“? First, it is important to state that this verse doesn’t mean that God rejects people who are imprisoned in sins of sexual immorality. God is a father to the orphans. This passage simply reveals that because of extra-marital sex of any type, malignant, spiritual resistance will block and even impede those who practice it from enjoying success in the ministerial and conjugal realm. Families and churches have a strong tendency to marginalize illegitimate children.
And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons: “My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the Lord loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.” If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons. (Hebrews 12:5-8)
This passage also reinforces the fundamental characteristic of illegitimate children who often express their frustration with respect to their questionable origins through an aversion to parental and even divine correction and discipline.
Emotional, sexual and homosexual affliction
Every conception of a child involves a sexual relationship, and every sexual relationship involves a blood covenant. A spiritually illegal sexual relationship always implies that the participants place the blood of this covenant on the altar of spirits of immorality. The child conceived in this manner becomes the fruit of a blood covenant established with these entities through their immoral acts. In this way, the child becomes the victim of demonic “persecution” at conception, literally an “intrauterine demonic possession”. This may seem harsh and even strange but the resulting symptoms affirm its truth.
This spiritual persecution has three basic aspects: emotional, sexual and often homosexual. Almost all children born outside of a marriage covenant suffer some type of sexual or homosexual abuse or molestation during their infancy.
Many women experience serious problems in menstruation and childbirth. Another symptom of the curse of an illegitimate child is that early on, these children demonstrate advanced and perverted sexual appetites.
When parents begin to understand what happens to their children born out-of-wedlock they learn to make sense out of their children’s strange and deviant behavior. I have heard of a mother who shared that her three years old child frequently masturbated to the point of becoming totally drenched in sweat. She frequently tried to correct her child, but never saw any results. Obviously, this type of behavior is very abnormal for a child of that age. Such behavior confirms extreme demonic oppression in the child’s life. Many other cases of children practicing lesbianism and manifesting homosexual traits confirm the same scheme of demonic persecution.
Many homosexuals ignoring the history of their conception and other aspects of spiritual heritage believe that they were born gay and that their condition is just something that happens to certain people thus their family, church and society as a whole should be more understanding and accept their condition as a normal yet not very common part of life. The truth is that they can bear a demonic homosexual persecution, which fortunately can be broken by the liberating power of the cross of Christ.
By ignoring the spiritual character of their situation these victims of the enemy end up conforming to the perverted nature of these entities accustoming themselves to live in moral passivity, low self-esteem, inferiority, insecurity, self-hatred, rejection and segregation.
Rejection and isolation
The curse of the illegitimate child can also be expressed as a syndrome of rejection and isolation. The illegitimate child feels alone in the midst of a multitude, regardless of the environment.
Let’s examine the situation from another point of view. When an “unmarried” woman discovers that she is pregnant, is this good or bad news? With few exceptions, we know that this news is tragic and distressful.
Children born outside of the marriage covenant are rarely planned, and for this reason, they end up being strongly rejected in various ways by various people. Their parents conceive them in lust rather than in love. In truth, these innocent children become bad news, the worst problem in their parent’s lives. Instead of treating them as blessings from God, many parents see their illegitimate children as problems, little people who came to bring difficulty and inconvenience into their lives. Many see such children as punishment from God and a shame to the family.
Attempts to hide a pregnancy, thoughts and attempts of abortion, misunderstanding between couples who conceive children outside of marriage, paternal abandonment, rejection by the grandparents, curses spoken over the situation and undesired children – all such traumatic situations invoke a “spirit” of self-rejection and segregation that haunts these people all through their lives, acting like a parasite that sucks the life out of their self-esteem.
Such children grow up with a profound sense of inadequacy. Persecuted by these evil spirits, these children become irritated and rebellious, no longer feeling part of the family. They experience tremendous difficulty in fitting in at the local church and frequently become outsiders at their school. Such children see themselves as inferior and rejected. Insecurity and lack of affection become the center of their emotional life. They feel constant difficulty in adjusting to any environment.
This is where we come to understand the complicated syndrome of street kids and the problems that many parents of adopted children experience. In spite of the fact that many adoptive parents raise their children with love and discipline, many unexplainably present an attitude of rebellion and isolation. They remain under the legacy of their biological parents who, many times, were involved in prostitution, abandonment, abortion attempts, poverty, illegitimate children, rape, etc. Ignoring these hereditary components leads many adoptive parents to a dead-end.
The Bible also mentions the consequences of the hereditary nature of illegitimate children. Therefore people who have children outside of the marriage covenant are often themselves, children of single mothers and simply reproduce their own condition.
Biblically, the legacy of the illegitimate child is capable of extending up to 10 generations (Deuteronomy 23:2) which is the number of generations that this iniquity must be confessed with respect to our lineage. Generational reconciliation between fathers and children either personally or intercessory is the master-key to break this curse.
Chronic difficulty in developing relationships, faithfulness in church attendance and fruitfulness in the church are directly consequences of the curse of the illegitimate child. Certainly, this is the main thing that keeps people from baptism into the body of Christ and the paternal heart of God.
Usually people who demonstrate difficulty with faithful church attendance have a history of someone in the bloodline born out-of-wedlock. When such curses are completely broken through profound reconciliation within the family, the person begins to recover the ability to fit in and begins to feel like a part of the church family.