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 Broken parent/child relationships and worshipspiritual orphanhood

When the relationship between parents and their children is broken, the children’s relationship with God is directly affected and a malignant insensibility penetrates their hearts. God desires to have a relationship with us as our father. This can be a huge challenge if we have broken off our relationship with our parents. He wants to teach us to be parents. He wants to elevate us to this level of maturity. This is one of the secrets of spiritual fruitfulness.

When we have unresolved problems with our parents we tend to limit our relationship with Jesus as a mere friend and avoid God’s divine role as our spiritual father. The more we insist on a relationship with God without resolving our relational problems with our parents, the more we become like an island. Our tendency is to establish a superficial relationship with God.

The truth is that our parents and the nature of our relationship with them function like spiritual lenses through which we see the nature and character of God. They are the filter of the revelation of God in our lives. If the lens is broken or obscured, we will have a distorted view of God.

When our knowledge of God is corrupted, it is easy for us to accept the lies of Satan. Every person that is rejected by their parents ends up being adopted by some demonic entity. This is how we get cut off from our spiritual identity, and this quickly compromises our relationships and hinders us from taking possession of our inheritance.

Orphanhood produces isolation and segregation. Every depressive thought of loneliness and self-rule comes from this feeling of being an isolated island in the sea of humanity. Many who come to Christ still see God as a celestial Santa Claus; a distant father who sometimes comes around to give them a gift or two.

Christ’s ultimate objective is to bring us to the father. For many people this is more painful than we can imagine. We have to overcome traumas and learn about motives and behaviors we have never received.

The father figure is connected to true worship. If Jesus mentioned true worship, it is because there also is a false worship. The place of true worship was allegorized by the most holy place in the tabernacle. Jesus showed the route to redemption through which he wants to lead us.

“Jesus said to him, I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the father, but by me.” (John 14:6)

The main enemy of this verse is the spirit of orphanhood. Jesus completed a statement assuring us, “I will not leave you orphans” (John 14:18). It is fundamental for us to know Jesus, but it is even more important that we allow him to lead us to a revelation of God as our father.


The tabernacle contained three parts and each section had its own entrance. There was the outer court where the bronze altar was located. Everyone had access to this area. The holy place was located inside and had the candle holder, the table and the show-bread. Only the priests had access to this room. The third room was the holy of holies, “. . . Behind the second curtain stood the holy of holies, containing the golden altar of incense and the Ark of the covenant covered on all sides with gold, and containing a golden urn filled with some of the manna with which God feed his people for 40 years in the desert. It also contained Aaron’s rod that budded, and the tables of the covenant; above it were the cherubim of glory overshadowing the mercy-seat” (Hebrews 9:3-5). Only the high priests had access to this room.

The doorway that gave access to the atrium was called “the way”. The first veil; the doorway that gave access to the holy place was called “the truth”. The second veil; the doorway that gave access to the holy of holies was called “the life”. This is why Jesus prophetically said: “I am the way, and the truth and the life and no one comes to the father but by me.”

Tearing through the veil in the direction of true worship

Going to the first door, you have access to the forgiveness of sins. You are on “the way”. The bronze altar testifies that are sins have been judged in Christ. Here we become sons of God and call out to his heart, “Abba father”. We began to cry out to him and desire the fatherhood of God. This outcry continues to bring us into the heart of God.

Out of this flows a life of brokenness, a process of inner healing that begins to release us. Repentance is the first level of revelation that brings us in touch with the kingdom of God who is our father. God is not only “all-powerful”- he is our Father.

There is a distance however, between “the way” and “the truth”. It is necessary to tear through the veil of truth. It is possible for you to be on the way and still not be in the truth. There is a lot that we still do not understand or have been able to discern. You may have many corrupted ideas and philosophies, and irrational beliefs that block your relationships with people and with God. As we get to know God, he begins to reveal to us our own hearts and as a result our motives and character begin to change.

To tear the veil of truth, we have to eat the show-bread by the light of the candlesticks. A responsible life of meditating on the Word of God in light of the revelations of the Holy Spirit brings us to a greater level of revelation and transformation. We are transformed by the renewing of our mind. There is no such thing as revival, without the revelation of the Word. I am not referring to simply growing in information, but revelation from God. Most of the time, information never becomes more than mere knowledge, and can even give birth to a spirit that will further distance us from God. Revelation is always accompanied by his comforting presence. Revelation has the connotation of being personal and intimate. We need to not only have the truth taught to us, but the power of the truth revealed to us. This is the path to worship.

In the same manner, there is also a distance between “the truth” and “the life”. A person may have much revelation and still be a wounded person full of arguments. The holy of holies is a place of full surrender; a place of total death and total life! To be in “the life” means to be a person who is totally healed, whole, seeking peace with everyone and sanctification, without which no one will see the Lord. This is the place where we see God.

This access to the fatherhood of God is based on a heart that is totally reconciled to the parents. When we open our hearts to our parents our eyes open to other people and to God. We can only see the glory of God through a heart that is reconciled with its parents. From this flows worship in spirit and truth and a fruitful life of ministry. The revelation of God the Father introduces us to the level of worship!